As a new mum who is nearly 6 month’s into motherhood i thought i would give you a heads up on what to say and not say, to a new mama.
3 THINGS NOT TO SAY TO A NEW MUM
Becoming a Mother comes with all sorts of challenges and breath taking moments, but girlllll if you don’t have children and are passing judgement then my friend…. take a seat okay…… Bye Felicia.
1) “I’M SO TIRED”
Everyone is guilty of saying these three little words but i can assure you, you are walking through a battlefield filled with mines that are about to explode if you dive into this conversation with a new Mum. I have used these words pre motherhood, i’ve been a flight attendant and worked shift work. My body clock has been so out of whack that i’ve nearly fallen asleep on the wheel driving home at 2am in the morning. However I can promise you a new mum will shit all over your tired moans. You get to be tired and be an adult of one, imagine adding a crying little human to that….then you will know whats up.
2) “I’M SO BUSY”
So busy doing what exactly? Working out? Socialising? Meeting babes for cocktails? Going on tinder dates? Netflix and “chill”? Ohhhhh girl you are busy, busy having cherished “me” time. When a new mum is “busy” she is “busy” wiping her babies bum, feeding him from her largely engorged and now sagging boobs, washing, folding washing, washing washing, drying washing, cleaning poo out of her top and hair. The glamorous list could really go on. Don’t get me wrong, Netflix is a new mama’s crack but it’s likely the “chill” aspect in that scenario isn’t quite as it used to be when there is a baby asleep in the room next to you.
3) “MY BABY WAS SLEEPING THROUGH THE NIGHT BY THEN”
Well good for you! Please don’t say this to me when my baby is currently waking up multiple times per night. If you aren’t a recent new Mum, then to be honest can you even remember wayyyyy back to the day your baby slept in? Back to the day when you most likely left them in a pram outside to cry it out because that’s what all the midwives told you to do back in the day (yes i’ve binged on Call The Midwife – i told you it was Mum crack) times be changing sister, we are millennial mum’s now.
3 THINGS TO SAY TO A NEW MUM
This list could be endless but here are just a few to have wrapped up your sleeve,
1) “YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL”
She may be walking like a cowboy, she will have bags, her hair is most likely not washed and her boobs are probably staring at you through her top as the milk leaks out of them in the shape of eye holes but tell her she is beautiful. To be honest most of the time a new mother will have a natural glow anyway but just say it OK. Women struggle feeling secure in their bodies and when you have a child a lot about that body changes so a little compliment can go a LONG way.
2) “I BOUGHT YOU FOOD”
This may be just me because i’m the greedy, foodie type but a breastfeeding mama generally has the appetite of a growing teenage boy who has just finished sport and is ready to smash the whole loaf of bread in the cupboard before dinner. The way to a new mum’s heart is definitely through her stomach.
3) “CAN I GET YOUR AUTOGRAPH?”
Because I’ve got mad respect for you! You are slaying this mum gig and although you may have different ways of parenting or beliefs you are a Mother and that means you are a pretty big deal. A human relies on a mother to nourish, guide and introduce them to the world. If you ask me that makes you a way bigger deal than Kim Kardashian’s behind will ever be.
Next time you see a new mum, try to keep these things in mind and i’m sure you will be invited around for more newborn baby snuggles, i know… you can thank me later 😉
I can hear your ovaries exploding from here,